Husband Appreciation Day – April 18, 2020

Sat Apr 18

More romantic than Father’s Day with less pressure than Valentine’s Day, Husband Appreciation Day is observed on the third Saturday in April. We love this little known holiday dedicated to the men in our lives who show up for us in bold and subtle ways every day of the year. It’s fun-loving spirit gives us lucky spouses an opportunity to be creative and thoughtful in how we show our appreciation to our partners.

 

History of Husband Appreciation Day

Since the earliest recordings of marriage, husbands, across many cultural and religious traditions, have been established as the protectors and providers of their wives and families.
Certain religious traditions believe it is the husband’s role to provide physical or even spiritual protection to their wives. Such protection can extend to one wife for a lifetime or multiple wives at once. The role of husband has traditionally been one of honor with the man leading the household in financial and other family planning decisions.

Major culture shifts over the past three decades have changed how many of us see, feel, and practice marriage. Many marriages are seeing more equality between husbands and their wives with husbands taking on more domestic tasks like cooking, cleaning, and child care while wives take on full time jobs and bring in as much, if not more money than their husbands. Other couples have abandoned gender roles completely as new norms of secularism, spirituality, same sex marriage, and gender nonspecific identities become more interwoven into our cultural fabric. Through our ever evolving history one thing remains true: we love our hubbies.

Husband Appreciation Day - Survey Results

Info sourced from a top Vancouver PR Firm:

SOME MARRIED WOMEN MISS THE SINGLE LIFE
9% of married women say they love their husbands, but sometimes they were they were single so they could experience dating again.
 

 

1 IN 10 MARRIED WOMEN ARE THE KEY DECISION MAKERS
10% of married women say they wear the pants in the relationship with their husband. 
 

 

FULL RANKING OF WHAT WOMEN APPRECIATE MOST ABOUT THEIR HUSBANDS
#1: My husband is a hard worker (69%)
#2: I can be myself around my husband (62%) 
#3: My husband makes me laugh (61%)
#4: My husband is smart (56%)
#5: My husband is supportive of my goals and desires (52%)
#6: My husband is a great parent (52%)
#7: My husband is sexy (43%)
#8: My husband does the dishes (33%)
#9: My husband is good with money (31%)
#10: My husband buys me things (29%)
 

 

FULL RANKING OF WHAT ANNOYS WOMEN MOST ABOUT THEIR HUSBANDS 
#1: My husband has selective listening (47%)
#2: My husband snores (46%)
#3: My husband has bodily quirks (e.g. nose picking, farting, burping, etc.) (25%)
#4: My husband can be a control freak sometimes (21%)
#5: My husband doesn’t contribute enough to household chores (20%)
#6: My husband is not as financially responsible as I am (20%)
#7: My husband works too much (19%)
#8: My husband is a slob (e.g. doesn’t wash dishes, leaves dirty clothes on the floor, etc.) (18%)
#9: My husband doesn’t get along with his inlaws (6%)
#10: My husband always forgets our anniversary (5%)

Husband Appreciation Day FAQs

How do I show my husband appreciation?

Aside from some of the ideas above, you can also show your husband appreciation by:
   – Giving him a compliment
   – Encouraging the kids to write notes or make cards for him
   – Cook his favorite meal
   – Give him a day or night out with the guys

Is there a Wife Appreciation Day?

Yes! Wife Appreciation Day is the third Sunday in September. It has similar traditions to Husband Appreciation Day.

Should I buy my husband a gift?

There are a lot of ways to show your husband appreciation. While a thoughtful gift is nice purchasing something isn’t necessary. For some of us quality time or loving words are just as, if not more, important. For this holiday it really is the thought that counts.

Husband Appreciation Day Activities

  1. Make a gift

    Fill a basket, box or other fun container with some of his favorite things. Get creative and give it some thought. Some of his favorite throwback candy from when he was a kid, tickets to watch his favorite sports team, and an assortment of his favorite craft beers is a great place to start.

  2. Do something he loves to do

    Offer to join him in one of his favorite hobbies or pastimes. Even if it isn't really your thing. It will make him feel good knowing his partner is taking an interest in something that means so much to him. If you and your hubby love all the same things then it’s a perfect time to try something new. Take an outdoor hike, try that new restaurant you’ve been talking about, go to an escape room, or throw some axes at a range.

  3. Get physical

    Sensual touch isn’t just for the bedroom and you don’t have to go “all the way” to send the message to your spouse that you’re grateful for all he is and all he offers. Work in some extra hand holding, cuddles, kisses, even smiles and long gazes in his direction, as you move about your normal day. After all 80% of communication is nonverbal. So use what you’ve got to make it loud and clear you choosing him was one of the best choices you’ve ever made.

5 Little Known Facts About Husbands

  1. An “Old” Word

    The word husband has Old English and Old Norse roots from the Middle Ages roughly translating to “a householder”.

  2. Protectors

    In the early ages of marriage, husbands were expected to protect not only their wives and children, but the servants and livestock of their homes as well.

  3. Wedding Ring Optional

    While most Western cultures have adopted the wedding ring as a symbol for marital status, husbands around the world have different markers - like beards for the Amish or a tallit of the Jewish faith - to show they are taken; and some, like Muslim husbands, are likely to not have any adornments at all.

  4. Husband For Sale

    An uncommon practice once depicted in a work by French novelist François Billetdoux, husband selling is when a wife sells her husband to another woman; thereby solidifying her divorce from him and his new marriage.

  5. One Husband Is Plenty

    While the practice of polygamy, one husband having more than one wife, can be seen in more than 400 societies around the world (monogamy is only seen in 186), polyagny, the practice of a wife having more than one husband, is far less common and seen in a little more than 50 societies world wide.

Why We Love Husband Appreciation Day

  1. Honoring tradition

    Every culture has a slightly different take on the role of marriage and the responsibilities of a husband. We love looking back at all these traditions and finding the commonalities of love, family, and unity at the heart of them.

  2. A reason to celebrate

    While our love for our husbands is felt everyday (for the most part) we don’t always have the opportunity to demonstrate that love in fun and creative ways. On this day we get to express our love in a unique way, and give our man the extra attention he deserves.

  3. A trip down memory lane

    It can be nice to reminisce on all the plot twists that brought us to our marriage. We particularly love reliving some of our favorite memories cuddling with our husbands on the couch while looking at old photos.