Toss Away the ‘Could Haves’ and ‘Should Haves’ Day is celebrated across the United States on the third Saturday in July. This year, it falls on July 20 .This day was created by author and motivational speaker Martha J. Ross-Rodgers to encourage people to let go of the past and live in the present. To celebrate, get a piece of paper and a pen, jot down your regrets and then toss it out or burn it. Make a resolution not to live in the past. Your best years are ahead of you, so why give up now?
History of Toss Away the “Could Haves” and “Should Haves” Day
Toss Away the ‘Could Haves’ and ‘Should Haves’ Day has to be one of the longest holiday names out there. The length of the name, however, masks a very simple message: don’t dwell on the things you cannot control.
Your ‘could haves’ and ‘should haves’ could take any form. It could be thinking about missed opportunities or broken relationships and wishful thinking about things you wish you had. This observance aims to encourage everyone to focus on the things that matter. You must prioritize the present and be optimistic about the future. Spend less time asking yourself questions like “why did I do that?”. Altering the past is firmly out of our control, so we must focus on the here and now. Wasting time on regrets will accomplish nothing. The idea is to live life to the fullest to have no regrets when it ends.
Today is the day to collect all of the past ‘could haves’ and ‘should haves’ and dump them in the garbage. After that, put the past behind you and embrace life to the fullest. Whenever this holiday comes calling on the third Saturday in July, that’s all it is telling you to do. Martha J. Ross-Rodgers invented this holiday several years ago. She is a motivational speaker and author who focuses on assisting people in living in the now and realizing their full potential.
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Toss Away the “Could Haves” and “Should Haves” Day FAQs
What causes regret?
Many specialists believe that regret is a mental process shaped by evolution. That is, it is advantageous for a species to understand past mistakes and remember them to avoid making similar mistakes in the future.
What are the most common regrets?
Foundation regrets, connection regrets, moral regrets, and boldness regrets are the four main categories of regret.
Why is regret such a strong feeling?
Regret is an extremely strong emotion. It can be so unpleasant that one tries to avoid making decisions altogether, which might lead to making choices in the heat of the moment.
How to Observe Toss Away the “Could Haves” and “Should Haves” Day
Learn to let go
To enjoy the future, you must let go of the past. Let go of the things that have been weighing you down and live in the present
Share your new resolution
Share your new resolution with others. Post on social media with the hashtag #TossAwayTheCouldHavesAndShouldHavesDay to encourage people to participate.
Set clear goals for the future
Set realistic goals for your future. Take control of your life and make sure you never have to look back in regret again.
5 Interesting Facts About Regret
Regret can trigger a bias in your decision-making ability, leading to poor choices.
Regret can cause anxiety as you constantly consider perceived better choices or behaviors.
Strong feelings of regret can cause feelings of dysphoria and sadness.
Erratic feelings of guilt and shame are common side effects of regret.
Regret can lead to chronic stress, which harms the hormonal and immune systems.
Why Toss Away the “Could Haves” and “Should Haves” Day is Important
Living a stress-free life
You will end up living a very complicated and stressful life if you regret every decision you make that leads to failure. Don't be afraid to display your vulnerable side, and don't be terrified of failing so much that it paralyzes you into inaction.
Reinforcing a positive outlook
Regret taints your perspective of the future. While you're sitting around feeling stupid it strengthens the belief that things will always be the same.
Living a fulfilled life
As regret frequently causes people to feel guilt over decisions or how they have spent their lives, it can greatly impede happiness. Avoiding it is the first step towards a fulfilled life.
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