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National Conscious Uncoupling Day – January 21, 2023

The National Conscious Uncoupling Day is observed annually on January 21. Based on research conducted in the U.S., almost 50% of all marriages will end in divorce or separation. Accordingly, it is found that the divorce rate seems to increase after holidays and around tax return time. Conscious uncoupling comes as prevention from contentious and expensive divorce, prioritizing the needs of the children involved. The day is observed to promote amicable separation, raising awareness of alternative resolutions to prevent families from being damaged by divorce.

History of National Conscious Uncoupling Day

According to the National Day Archives, National Conscious Uncoupling Day was established by King Law Firm Attorneys at Law, Inc. in November 2020. As divorce rates increase after holidays and around tax return time, conscious uncoupling can be a way for couples to split while keeping mutual respect and prioritizing the needs of their children. By celebrating the day, we can raise awareness of alternative divorce resolutions such as mediation, do-it-yourself divorce, collaborative divorce, and out-of-court divorce.

Mediation can be an effective divorce alternative, especially for couples that can reach an agreement. Meanwhile, the do-it-yourself divorce is rarely recommended. Although one of the alternatives, it could complicate matters and result in an unfavorable outcome. Collaborative divorce encourages spouses, each having an attorney, to cooperate in coming up with a mutually beneficial agreement. Lastly, through an out-of-court divorce, spouses have the option to work toward a settlement instead of letting a judge decide for them in court.

The word ‘uncoupling’ has been around since the 1940s as a term for divorce. In 1976, sociologist Diane Vaughan presented an ‘uncoupling theory’ that talks about a certain point in a couple’s separation. In 2009, the term conscious uncoupling was coined by Katherine Woodward Thomas and was popularized by actress Gwyneth Paltrow when she used it to describe her divorce from Chris Martin in 2014. Conscious uncoupling is a way to end a relationship with an emphasis on mutual respect, kindness, and deep caring, especially when there are children involved.

National Conscious Uncoupling Day timeline

1940s
The ‘Uncoupling’ Term

The word ‘uncoupling’ is used to describe divorce.

1976
The Uncoupling Theory

Diane Vaughan proposed the uncoupling theory to discuss the process of separations or break-ups.

2009
The Conscious Uncoupling

Katherine Woodward Thomas coins the term conscious uncoupling as she shares divorce alternatives to the public.

2014
The Term Is Popularized

The term conscious uncoupling becomes popular as Gwyneth Paltrow uses it in describing her separation from her then-husband Chris Martin.

National Conscious Uncoupling Day FAQs

What is an uncoupling ceremony?

It is when two people come together to honor the time that they shared with respect and forgiveness.

How do I start conscious uncoupling?

The first step in conscious uncoupling is letting go of anger and unhappiness associated with your former relationship.

Does a husband have to support his wife during separation?

Some laws obligate married couples to assist or support one another upon separation, especially if they have a child to support.

How to Observe National Conscious Uncoupling Day

  1. Spread the word

    As a lot of couples or families are at risk of separation, it is best to help in raising awareness of alternative divorce resolutions. This will help all individuals involved to experience less trauma and damage.

  2. Learn about conscious uncoupling

    It would be a good idea to learn about conscious uncoupling yourself even if you wish to not go through it in your lifetime. Knowing it will help prevent contentious and expensive divorce, for yourself or for someone dear to you.

  3. Prevent divorce

    Conscious uncoupling is a good option if spouses are currently going through the process of separation. Avoiding divorce is better, especially for couples who have children. National Conscious Uncoupling Day can be a chance for spouses to consider divorce alternatives first.

5 Interesting Facts About Marriage

  1. Marriage from an affair mostly fails

    It is said that more than 75% of people who marry partners from an affair eventually divorce.

  2. Good marriage gives life satisfaction

    People who have a good marriage feel more satisfied in their lives.

  3. Trust is the most crucial element

    If you long for a happy marriage, trust is the key.

  4. Happy marriage can result in productivity

    Employees with a happy marriage tend to be more productive at work.

  5. Some divorcees get remarried

    Around 60% of divorced men and women reportedly marry or will marry again.

Why National Conscious Uncoupling Day is Important

  1. To help raise awareness

    Since the number of divorces is high enough, conscious uncoupling can be an option for spouses to separate if they feel that divorce is their last resort. The day is observed to raise awareness that divorce can still be done in an amicable and less traumatic way.

  2. A reminder to improve marriage

    Divorce is probably not something couples wish for. But people change, and those changes may affect marriage. The day can be the right time for spouses to remind themselves to improve their relationship and marriage if they want to avoid divorce from happening in the future.

  3. To avoid nasty divorce

    Understanding conscious uncoupling may avoid nasty divorce for spouses, which can be traumatic, especially if children are involved. If divorce is the last option, at least spouses are encouraged to do it as amicably as possible.

National Conscious Uncoupling Day dates

YearDateDay
2023January 21Saturday
2024January 21Sunday
2025January 21Tuesday
2026January 21Wednesday
2027January 21Thursday

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