Longtime IRS Auditor and Beloved Matriarch Mary Bender Dies at 85

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Mary Bender, a longtime IRS auditor and cherished matriarch, passed away peacefully on February 17, 2026, at the age of 85. Bender was known for her deep faith, compassionate spirit, and unwavering love for her family. She leaves behind a legacy of kindness and service that will be deeply missed by all who knew her.

Why it matters

Mary Bender's life exemplified the values of faith, generosity, and caring for others that were instilled in her from a young age. As a devoted member of her church and community, Bender's passing marks the loss of a beloved figure who touched the lives of many through her kindness and unwavering support for her family.

The details

Born in Sheboygan, Wisconsin in 1940, Bender grew up in a large, loving family and learned the importance of compassion and service from a young age. She went on to have a successful career as an IRS auditor, earning recognition for her dedication and excellence. However, Bender's greatest joy was her family, and she was a devoted wife, mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother who cherished every moment spent with her loved ones.

• Mary Bender passed away peacefully on February 17, 2026.
• Bender was born on April 24, 1940 in Sheboygan, Wisconsin.
• Bender graduated from Oostburg High School in 1958.
• A Celebration of Life memorial service will be held at the First Reformed Church of Cedar Grove on March 7th.

What’s next

A Celebration of Life memorial service will be held at the First Reformed Church of Cedar Grove with Rev. Kent Van Hul officiating on March 7th. Visitation from 11:00 a.m. to 1:00 p.m. with the church service beginning at 1:00 p.m. Mary Bender will be laid to rest privately with family at Oakhill cemetery in Plymouth, Indiana.