Queer and Trans Youth Find Lifeline in Unexpected Mentor

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Liam Gent, a trans man who grew up in the church, describes the invaluable lessons he has learned from mentoring four young LGBTQ individuals who were rejected by their families and faith communities. Through their stories, Gent highlights the critical need for accepting adults in the lives of queer and trans youth, and the profound impact even a single supportive person can have in reducing the risk of suicide.

Why it matters

This story sheds light on the ongoing struggles faced by LGBTQ youth, particularly those from religious backgrounds, and the vital role that mentors and allies can play in providing a lifeline and sense of belonging. It underscores the urgent need for greater education, acceptance, and support within faith communities to prevent the tragic loss of young lives.

The details

Gent, who is 39 years old, describes mentoring four young LGBTQ individuals, all in their 20s or younger, who have faced rejection, isolation, and mental health challenges due to their identities. One young woman in her early 20s, navigating recovery and religious deconstruction, taught Gent the importance of patience and listening without an agenda. Another young man in his mid-20s, neurodivergent and struggling with inadequate mental health resources, highlighted the systemic failures that leave many LGBTQ youth without the basic knowledge and support they need. A teenage boy, severely isolated and fearful from his upbringing, showed Gent the profound weight of providing a stable, caring presence. And a young man trying to build structure and direction from limited resources impressed Gent with his resilience and determination to make a positive impact despite the adversity he has faced.

• Gent has been mentoring these four young people over the past several years.

What they’re saying

What’s next

Gent encourages readers, regardless of their own identity or background, to consider becoming that 'one accepting adult' in the life of a young LGBTQ person. He emphasizes that the most important qualities are a willingness to show up, be present, and provide unconditional support, rather than expertise or a perfected theology.