Activist Struggles With Friends Who Avoid Political Discussions

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An activist wrote to an advice column asking if they should end friendships with people who don't want to constantly discuss politics, either on social media or in person. The activist feels their friends are apathetic and not civically engaged, while the friends have politely asked to avoid political conversations at social gatherings. The advice columnist acknowledged the activist's resentment may be insurmountable, but suggested looking for new friends who share their political passions while also keeping an open mind about their current friends' offline activities.

Why it matters

This story highlights the growing political polarization in society, where differences in political engagement and views can strain personal relationships. It explores the challenges of maintaining friendships across political divides and the need to balance activism with understanding.

The details

The activist regularly volunteers, attends protests, and donates to causes they deem worthy, but they see no evidence of their friends doing the same. When the activist has tried to discuss political issues, their friends have politely asked to avoid those conversations, saying they prefer to keep social gatherings light. The activist feels their friends' lack of overt political activity on social media means they are apathetic and not civically engaged.

• The activist wrote to the advice column in March 2026.

What they’re saying

What’s next

The activist will need to carefully consider whether the differences with their friends are significant enough to end the friendships, or if they can maintain the relationships while also seeking out new friends who share their political passions.