Couples Who Savor Shared Moments Have Stronger Relationships

Study finds partners who intentionally appreciate positive experiences report less conflict and more confidence in their future together.

Published on Feb. 14, 2026

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Researchers at the University of Illinois found that couples who regularly savor shared positive experiences, whether reminiscing about a favorite memory, enjoying a meal together, or looking forward to an upcoming event, report greater relationship satisfaction, less conflict, and stronger confidence in their future as a couple. The protective effect was especially noticeable among couples facing higher stress levels.

Why it matters

The study highlights the importance of couples intentionally focusing on and appreciating the positive moments in their relationship, which can serve as a practical strategy for maintaining a strong partnership, even during stressful times.

The details

The research included 589 adults across the U.S. who completed a survey measuring how often they and their partners intentionally savored positive experiences in their relationship. Participants also answered questions about relationship satisfaction, conflict, and confidence in their future together, as well as their own stress levels. The results showed that individuals who engaged in more joint savoring with their partners reported less conflict, more satisfaction, and more confidence in their relationship's future.

  • The study was conducted in 2026.

The players

Noah Larsen

A graduate student at the University of Illinois Urbana Champaign and the first author of the study.

Allen W. Barton

A professor of human development and family studies at the University of Illinois Urbana Champaign and a co-author of the study.

Brian G. Ogolsky

A professor of human development and family studies at the University of Illinois Urbana Champaign and a co-author of the study.

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What they’re saying

“Savoring involves slowing down to become aware of and focus on positive experiences. Savoring can occur when we reminisce on a past experience, focus on the present moment or look ahead to a future experience.”

— Noah Larsen, Graduate student (University of Illinois)

“When couples face greater stress, savoring can serve as a buffer, helping protect their confidence in their relationship and their mental health.”

— Noah Larsen, Graduate student (University of Illinois)

“Being able to identify factors that provide this type of buffering effect is important for marriage and romantic relationships, as they provide tangible things that couples can do to keep their relationship strong, even in the midst of heightened levels of stress.”

— Allen W. Barton, Professor (University of Illinois)

What’s next

The researchers plan to further study the long-term effects of joint savoring on relationship health and stability.

The takeaway

This study underscores the value of couples intentionally focusing on and appreciating the positive moments in their relationship, which can help strengthen their bond and protect their partnership, even during stressful times.