Love Isn't Perfect, But It's Worth Choosing Again

A reflection on the honest portrayals of love in classic films like "Love Jones" and "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind"

Published on Feb. 13, 2026

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In this essay, the author reflects on how the films "Love Jones" and "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind" present a more honest and nuanced view of love, one that acknowledges its imperfections but still finds it worth choosing again. The author argues that true love is not about permanence or perfection, but about presence, vulnerability, and the willingness to work through challenges together.

Why it matters

This essay challenges the fairy tale notions of love often portrayed in media and celebrates a more realistic, grounded understanding of romantic relationships. It resonates with anyone who has experienced the ups and downs of love and reminds us that the most meaningful connections are often forged through honesty, humility, and a willingness to keep choosing each other.

The details

The author draws parallels between the endings of "Love Jones" and "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind", where the main characters acknowledge their imperfections and choose to be together despite the risks. They don't have all the answers, but they're willing to walk forward without a blueprint. The author also shares a personal conversation with their partner about the concept of soulmates, further reinforcing the idea that love is not about perfection or destiny, but about the active choice to be with someone.

  • The essay was published on February 13, 2026.

The players

Randal C. Smith

The author of the essay, a Chicago-based attorney and writer who examines how legal systems operate in theory and in practice.

Darius

The male lead character in the film "Love Jones".

Nina

The female lead character in the film "Love Jones".

Joel

The male lead character in the film "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind".

Clementine

The female lead character in the film "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind".

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What they’re saying

“I want us to be together again. For as long as we can be.”

— Darius (Love Jones)

“I'm not perfect. I'll get bored. I'll feel trapped. That's what happens with me.”

— Clementine (Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind)

“Okay.”

— Joel (Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind)

The takeaway

This essay reminds us that true love is not about perfection or permanence, but about presence, vulnerability, and the willingness to keep choosing each other despite the challenges. It celebrates a more honest and grounded understanding of romantic relationships, one that resonates with anyone who has experienced the ups and downs of love.