San Francisco Man Reconnects with Son on Dream Bali Trip

A father and son's journey to the enchanted island of Bali leads to healing and new memories.

Apr. 10, 2026 at 4:06am by Ben Kaplan

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A bold, geometric illustration in the Art Deco style, depicting the lush tropical landscape of Bali with its ancient temples, winding roads, and vibrant colors, capturing the spiritual and natural beauty of the island.A father and son's journey to the enchanted island of Bali becomes a transformative experience, healing old wounds and strengthening their bond.San Francisco Today

After 20 years of a tenuous relationship, Dr. Tim Seelig and his son Judson embarked on a dream trip to Bali that brought them closer together. The two, along with friends, explored the island's temples, culture, and natural wonders, finding spiritual renewal and processing the loss of Seelig's daughter.

Why it matters

The story highlights the power of travel to heal family relationships and create meaningful connections, even after years of estrangement. It also sheds light on the rich cultural and spiritual traditions of Bali that can provide perspective on life's challenges.

The details

Seelig and Judson, who had been estranged for two decades, won a villa stay in Bali through a charity auction. They invited friends to join them on the trip, which included stops in Hong Kong and immersive experiences like bathing in the sacred Pura Tirta Empul temple. The journey allowed them to bond, share grief over the loss of Seelig's daughter, and gain a deeper appreciation for Balinese Hindu traditions focused on community, ancestor veneration, and the cycle of life.

  • Two years ago, Seelig attended a Turtle Creek Chorale fundraiser where Judson bid on and won the Bali villa stay.
  • The father and son had not spent two weeks together in 40 years, since 1986.

The players

Dr. Tim Seelig

The conductor laureate of the San Francisco Gay Men's Chorus who reconnected with his son Judson on the Bali trip.

Judson

Seelig's son, who was 7 years old when Seelig came out and left home, leading to 20 years of a tenuous relationship before the Bali trip.

Robert and Bryan

Canadian friends who joined Seelig and Judson on the Bali trip.

Eddie

The Balinese guide and driver who provided insights into the island's culture and traditions.

Corianna

Seelig's daughter who passed away, and whose memory was honored during the Bali trip.

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What they’re saying

“Because we care about everyone.”

— Eddie, Balinese guide

What’s next

Seelig plans to continue exploring ways to strengthen his relationship with Judson and honor the memory of his late daughter Corianna.

The takeaway

The Bali trip allowed Seelig and Judson to heal old wounds, create new memories, and gain a deeper appreciation for the power of travel to bring families together and provide spiritual renewal, even after years of estrangement.