Relative's Marijuana Use Concerns Host During Visit

Dear Abby columnist advises addressing driving under the influence, not consumption habits.

Published on Feb. 28, 2026

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A host is concerned about their relatives' heavy marijuana use and driving under the influence during a visit, and wonders whether to discuss it with them.

Why it matters

While recreational marijuana is legal, excessive use and driving under the influence can still pose risks to public safety. The host is grappling with how to address the concerning behavior without overstepping boundaries.

The details

The host hosted some young relatives, both in their early 30s, for a 5-day visit. During the visit, the relatives smoked 5-7 joints per day, commenting that the marijuana was much stronger than what they could get at home. They also consumed high-caffeine energy drinks and exhibited anxiety and paranoia. Multiple times, they drove their rental car after smoking, which could have resulted in a DUI if they were stopped.

  • The 5-day visit concluded recently.

The players

Observer in Oregon

The host who is concerned about their relatives' marijuana use and driving during the visit.

Relatives

Two young adults in their early 30s who visited the host and engaged in heavy marijuana use and driving under the influence.

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What they’re saying

“We're on vacation”

— Relatives (al.com)

What’s next

The host is considering whether to discuss the concerning behavior with the relatives now that the visit has concluded.

The takeaway

While recreational marijuana use is legal, excessive use and driving under the influence can still pose risks. The host is grappling with how to address the issue without overstepping boundaries, highlighting the complexities around addressing substance use within families.