On a level from one to Adele, how are you feeling today? When we tell you it's National Ex Spouse Day, is that going to make you blast "Someone Like You" and cry into your ice cream? If you said yes, you're wrong. Created by Reverend Ronald Coleman — not, surprisingly, by a recent divorcee who realized how much he was saving on taxes — National Ex Spouse Day is the day to reflect on the positive moments you shared with your ex. (And if you rejoice about your breakup a little, we won't judge you.)
Why We Love National Ex Spouse Day
A. Don’t forget the happy thoughts
Many people turn into Bitter Betties or Bobs when you mention their ex spouse. But, need we remind you, today is not the day to think negatively of them (or your relationship). Remember the reasons that led you to walk down the aisle to your big white wedding — or to that Las Vegas drive-thru. Reflect on the happy moments that made you laugh, and made you grow together. (And then, we give you permission to be thankful they’re no longer in your life.)
B. You no longer have to deal with their annoying habits.
What’s your ex spouse’s most annoying habit? (Calm down, we don’t have that much time here.) From popping gum to leaving the toilet seat up, it’s an occasion to be excited you don’t have to deal with those annoying little things your ex-lover did anymore. But, since technically today’s supposed to be a positive holiday, we’re going to make you balance each negative thought with a positive one. Be happy they’re gone — but also be happy they were in your life.
C. But wait — I’m still married.
If you’re still in a happy marriage (or on to your third), there are still things you can do to commemorate National Ex-Spouse Day. Take this day to celebrate your relationship! And no, we’re not saying you have to go all-out and make a reservation at your favorite steak house. Instead, take a moment to think about what makes your relationship work, and what it is that you love so much about that special someone. But, if you’re unhappy in your marriage, maybe today is the day to consider making them your ex spouse. We’re not encouraging, we’re just saying.
How to Celebrate National Ex Spouse Day
1. Do you, boo boo!
For those fresh out of divorces, today’s a great day to focus on yourself. There are many activities that are easier to do when you’re single and don’t have to listen to another person’s opinion. So write a list of five things you want to accomplish as a single lady or lad. This will give you some focus and allow you to start making forward progress, instead of wallowing in bed or moving onto that sixteenth Corona.
2. Spend time with your children.
If your marriage produced children, today’s a great day to embrace them and give thanks for the beauty that came from your partnership. Go out for ice cream with them, and enjoy their laughs (or their whining). You can sit there and smile, knowing they got their best traits from you, and their not so great ones they got from your ex.
3.One (wo)man’s junk is another (wo)man’s treasure
Are you still holding onto a few items that remind you of your ex-partner? Today’s the day to do some spring cleaning. Grab those items, throw them in the back of your car, drive to the nearest donation center, and leave them there for someone else to enjoy. If this seems like a lot of energy to put into an ex, grab those items and have a bonfire. Yes, we know what you’re saying, National Ex-Spouse Day is a positive holiday. But who was ever sad at a bonfire? No one. We’re just saying.
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